8 January 2012, 2:59 pm
ok... i have been with my guy for several years now. he treats me great. we went on vacations together, have a pet together. things just arent what they use to be... we never make love anymore we just sit together want watch movies like an old married couple. i feel like he loves me but partly because i am willing to give up so much. we have fun and joke around, but sometimes it seems like more of a good friendship. so i met a guy who was just a friend, but we instantly clicked. i trusted him and he trusted me immediately. well, we made love together several times. he told me he loved me and i told him the same thing. neither man knows about the other.. i know i will have to come clean and hurt one of them. but how do you know which one is the right one? do i love this new guy, because he is new? he treats me so well, but so did/does my boyfriend. how do you know which one is the right one? i love them both, u would die then hurt either of them. my boyfriend use to treat me with such tender loving care... he would rub my back until i feel asleep. i felt like there was literally nothing he wouldnt do for me. but not so much now, i'm sure he would still do anything for me but i dont feel it. this new guy makes me feel like he would die for me. he is a little too clingy, but i secretly like it.. atleast his kisses are to just start the sex lol. he kisses me lightly all over my face and hands and holds me tight. he isnt rushing off to the tv after sex,... we made love literally for 3 hours. and spent 2 more hours holding and talking after. never has that happened with my boyfriend... even when we were new we would have a 30 minute 'act' and then the tv would be on and we'd lay n bed cuddling while he watched tv. he told me he has never loved or been love like this before and i believe him. he spent 1k to come visit me... if it was just about sex he can get that anywhere. yes, he is new... it could be a 'grass it greener' situation... but how do i know? he is so good looking and yet he is in love with me. yes i have image issues... but that doesnt mean i am just looking for random guys to make me feel good. he is in love with me as a person but kisses and loves every inch of my body... my boyfriend always wants me to dress up and "spice" things up... rarely did we make love the way the new guy and i do. my byofriend never made me feel comfortable letting him see me completely. the new guy does. he is a fckin physically trainer who is in the army, he is a sweet tender, tough hot, sexy guy.... and he literally could get any girl. my boyfriend is hot too...but i dont if i truly love only one or both... or how to tell. please no judging i sincerely need advice. i am sorry this is all in lower case i am balling my eyes out i need help. you're 100% right i don't deserve either of them.. even before i didn't deserve either of them... but now i have both of them and i need to know how you know when it is real... Read More »
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